June 26th, 2008



In the past 8 years, I have been lucky enough to get to know many wonderful people online. Many of the online friends closest to me happen to be Magne F fans also, which is interesting because you can't always assume a broader affinity with someone based on just one shared interest. It is important to have someplace to start, of course. But taking that step beyond, to really get to know someone and let them into your life, takes a bit of faith, risk, hope, courage, energy and most of all openness.

At this point, my 'fan experience' is less about being a music fan than about a daily experience of friendship that I wouldn't give up for anything. I enjoy the music, I appreciate the art, and I devour the words when they come our way. It all gives me something to think about, to experience, and of course to blog about here when the mood strikes me ;-) But to me the most important aspect, the most personal and rewarding part, is the hardest part to share because it defies description and is incomprehensible to those who don't take part in something similar in their own life.

It's difficult to explain to some people the kind of closeness you can have with people thousands of miles away via the Internet, and how that can be a valuable and rewarding bond. In the past, people kept up lengthy correspondences with friends and family via the old fashioned letter, so why is it so hard for people to grasp that you can indeed forge true friendships online? I have somehow managed to express to family, friends and coworkers why the term 'online friends' does not equate to 'I am a total loser who doesn't have any real friends of my own, so I invest a lot of time creating the superficial semblance of friendship with people I will never meet and that makes me completely pathetic.' But some people automatically assume that you can't have a real friendship with people you meet online, and I just smile knowingly and leave it at that.

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